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Monday, April 7, 2014

Set your expectations super high! Pygmalion Effect!

Dear Mentee - 

The Pygmalion effect, or Rosenthal effect, is the phenomenon in which the greater the expectation placed upon people, the better they perform. The effect is named after the greek myth of Pygmalion. Wikipedia



  • Never low ball yourself or reduce yourself in your own eyes. Need I say more?


  • I always expect high not just of myself but also of my team. The more expectations I place on them, the better they perform. I always treat my employees to become leaders. The purpose of a leader is to create more leaders and that will be my career legacy.

  • As Goethe said, “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”

  • Best Regards,
  • Your Mentor

  • Friday, April 4, 2014

    "Your attitude determines your altitude!"

    April 4 2014
    McLean, VA
    Dear Mentee -

    I am currently reading John C. Maxwell's "Attitude 101" and I cannot recommend how much essential this book is for every aspiring leader and also for those seasoned leaders or for any person. It is a quick and easy read but every page is golden that you may want to re-read it again.

    I rely a lot on carrying a positive attitude. It is my super power to feel invincible. I take pride that nobody can break my positivity and happy spirit. I believe in treating everyone with great attitude regardless of who they are. With just this behavoir, I can stop stress at bay which lets me be more productive.

    "Attitude is the one small thing that makes the big difference"

    How hard is it to be nice or not a pain in the neck? Some people are perpetually negative just because they chose to be. They have closed minds and bitter nature. They are always complaining about everything. No matter how nice everything around them is or how hard everyone is trying, they will be negative. They are always stressed and emanate negative energy wherever they go. They are energy drainers!

    A rotten attitude ruins a team! Not just for the person but everyone else. Ofcourse very soon people will start isolating from the negative attitude person. But as a leader of an organization I have to deal with some employees who are often grumpy and who I call grown up children with bad behavior. I have to come up with strategies to deal with such personalities as they spoil the entire team's spirit and always be hurdles where progress can be made. My goal is quickly discard that behavior before they drag the team down. When I build my team I  focus on energizing my team with positive attitudes - I need good people with great talent and awesome attitudes!!!


    "A hardened attitude is a dreaded disease. It causes closed mind and dark future" - John C. Maxwell

    That is why it is critical to acknowledge this bad behavior as they cause resentment and division in the team. Here are my strategies -
    1. Do not let a bad attitude ruin your vision or purpose. You do not have to be liked by all. 
    2. Coaching a bad attitude means you are spending time on their mission instead of the mission of the organization - Kate Nasser
    3. Create an environment for a positive can-do attitude and then expect it from everyone! 
    4. Energize the team with positive attitude, remember good attitude is contagious!
    5. Inspire your employees with  positive attitudes to reach the heights of success. Reward good behavior.
    6. Ignore the person's cry for false attention and keep your focus on what you are trying to achieve. Never confront their attitude.
    7. Keep socializing positive ideas and things that will enable the organization to progress

    I love the following advice from Kate Nasser -
    • Expect a positive attitude and inspire the possibilities that come from it!
    • Foster an active learning culture.
    • Feature team successes and lessons learned.
    • Ask for solutions; don’t just give them.
    • Recognize innovative thought, outstanding effort, commitment, and action.
    • Express your appreciation at the end of the week for tough situations handled well.
    • Let no one disillusion or distract you and the team from the leadership challenge and organization mission.
    See more at: http://katenasser.com/leaders-don%E2%80%99t-coach-a-bad-attitude/#sthash.ZJpNvOMI.dpuf 

    Here is John's book -


    If I were to determine the syllabus of kids in schools, I would highly advocate having "Leadership" as part of the curriculum and Attitude would be a big lesson plan. 

    Best Regards,
    Your Mentor

    Wednesday, February 19, 2014

    Managing your boss..

    I like this list, so just bookmarking it here
    http://www.smh.com.au/executive-style/management/17-ways-to-make-your-new-boss-appreciate-you-20131016-2vlym.html

    The book I plan on reading soon - http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/asin/0061121363/monstercom

    Sunday, February 9, 2014

    Just four things ...

    Feb 9 2014
    Somewhere 35,000 feet above Nevada almost touching Utah 

    Dear Mentee -

    It seems like I get inspired to write more when I am flying at 35,000 feet altitude. I am reading a book  inflight on how to work your subconscious mind. The book came as a recommendation from a friend. More on the book later I have finished it. BTW, I read only books that come highly recommended.  As I am reading the book, I am wondering why didn't I read it before?

    If my 20 year old self asked me for what are the top four best things to do in your twenties - 

    1. Read more 
    2. Read more 
    3. Travel
    4. Contemplate

    Reading and traveling are two most enriching experiences that will nurture the mind and the soul. It is time well spent and those who haven't traveled and who aren't readers are missing out so much in life!! Yes I said it - you are missing out!!! I cannot emphasize more on how much rewarding and humbling it is to read or travel! It opens up your mind to new horizons and  has the power to transform you. 

    I will leave you with this quote,

    Five years from now, you’re the same person except for the people you’ve met and the books you’ve read.- John Wooden

    A game I played 14 years ago!!!

    Post coming soon on game I played in class taught by a very popular NASA project manager/professor Jack Connolly !! Below was my report on the game we played in class drawing similarities to real life project environments!!! If one can apply the aspects of this game to real life situations, both personal and professional -

    Monday, January 27, 2014

    I dream of ..

    Dear Mentee -

    I always strive to have passion and purpose in life and when I do, I always set goals. Sometimes I dream of it and then put it down in writing. When I put it down in writing it becomes more purposeful as though I have given life to it. And time and time again, the words become reality. Whether it is an entry in a journal or a letter to someone, when my dreams become words, then somehow words become actions because I feel a sense of accountability to it.  The sense of fulfillment when those words start breathing and come to life is miraculous.

    This is one of my dream for myself for this year as I put it in a letter to a fellow hiker I met during the Zion hiking drama.

    San Jose, CA
    1/27/2014

    Hi Sandra, 


    Good to hear from you! The comedy festival sounds fun, I have never been to Nashville!! I am glad you liked the pictures!!

    After the Zion hike, I went on to check out Petrified national park, Saguaro national park and Joshua tree national park!! All of them were amazing!! The national parks are true gems of this country.

    Earlier this month, I went to northern Virgina/DC area and checked out this place called Great Falls which was beautiful and then last week I was in Portland and got an opportunity to hike the Beacon Rock summit and also see the Multnomah Falls. Portland Columbia Gorge area is very scenic and has tons of hiking trails to waterfalls. I want to go back and do some more hiking there and was looking to hike up the St.Helens which is not technical as Mt.hood. 

    Ideally for this year I want to hike the Muir Woods/Muir Beach area, go back to Zion to hike the Narrows, go back to Portland for some more hikes but the big one I am dreaming of is to go to South America around June or later.

    Here is my bucket list for South America (in no order)
    • Lake Titicaca
    • Patagonia Area - Perito Moreno glacier, the Valdes Peninsula, or Torres Del Paine national park. (french valley)
    • Galapagos Islands
    • Easter Island
    • Machu Picchu
    • Angel Falls
    • Iguazu Falls
    • Amazon rainforest
    Another long time goal is to check out the northern islands in Reykjavik. A friend and I have been planning the trip for 2 years now and all we need is a weekend for it.

    In March I will be in Columbus, Ohio  for a few days to support my friend who will be competing in the Arnold bodybuilding show. I intend to somehow convince her to come with me to check out the Cuyahoga national park which is near by.

    On the other hand if I move to the DC area, I plan to checkout the national parks in that area. At this point, this is what I have been dreaming of but only time will tell whats in store for my hiking aspirations. 

    I didnt mean to cram in and write so much but this is how I get excited when it comes to hiking! And when you asked me what my plans are, I could not stop penning them down. You are welcome to join me on any of my hikes or feel free to propose one and I will be happy to join!! 

    Have a wonderful week ahead!!


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    So here you go Mentee, this is what I do when I am not working or doing anything, I dream and I dream of mountains, waterfalls and rivers and everything beautiful that is called nature so I can set myself on an adventure and explore.


    Yours truly,
    Mentor